I’ve never met an engaged couple who expected to go through any type of marital trauma in their marriage. Their new, untested love tells them they won’t be like other couples and that somehow, true to Captain and Tennille’s forty-year-old song, love will surely keep them together. But the truth is, they will at some point face marriage problems, and when they do, there are three people to find and three people to avoid.
Although no couple plans this, many find themselves in an unwanted marriage crisis that makes them consider the dreaded “D” word. Divorce. Sometimes, it’s outside pressures that suffocate us. Other times, it’s neglect and betrayal.
So, what do you do when your life comes to a screeching halt because your most important earthly relationship is in jeopardy? As Christ-following married couples, we are to seek God, spend time in His Word, and pray for healing in our marriages. Thankfully, God also uses people to help show us the way. Here are a few people to seek out during a marriage crisis and a few to leave behind like Kirk Cameron in an end-times movie.
- Find people who are biblically grounded, not culturally relevant. This means counselors and friends. When crises arise in our marriages, culture screams its own set of ideals and “truths.” In times of dilemma, we need to surround ourselves with people who love and know the Bible well. LifeGroups are a great place to start.
- Find people who are for your marriage and not just for you. It’s so easy to listen to well-meaning friends who love you, take your side, and want you to be happy. But you need friends who want to see your marriage succeed. Friends who are willing to speak the truth even if it’s not what we want to hear.
- Find a godly couple who has walked through difficulty in their marriage, not one who gave up. One of the best things we can do in a time like this is to find a couple who has beaten the odds and stayed together despite a crisis. They offer hope by their mere presence in our lives.
Our God is in the business of bringing life back to lifeless things—and that includes your marriage. Trust Him. He is the only one who will never let you down.