Most of us know gratitude is a good thing. But when it comes to knowing how to practice gratitude or what it actually looks like in everyday life, that can be more difficult.
I’ve started wondering: What if gratitude isn’t just a warm, fuzzy feeling we tap into every November? What if it’s actually a discipline—a consistent practice I can develop daily? What if being grateful is the secret to a truly special time with family this Thanksgiving?
Gratitude Is an Action, Not Just an Emotion
Gratitude is so much more than an emotion—it’s an action. In 1 Thessalonians 5:18, the Apostle Paul said, “In everything, give thanks.” That verse highlights that expressing gratitude isn’t a suggestion—it’s a daily part of our faith and personal growth. So what does it look like to make gratitude a habit in your daily life?
From what I’ve found, there are two primary ways to practice gratitude: subtle and overt.
Subtle Gratitude: Seeing the Good in Everyday Life
One of the most foundational ways to practice gratitude is through reframing—choosing to see and focus on the positive aspects of a situation. Pastor Craig Groeschel often talks about cognitive reframing—training your mind to shift from negative emotions to more positive feelings. This isn’t about toxic positivity, but about cultivating a mindset that notices the good stuff, even in hard moments.
Consider this example: You’re driving your kids to school and the thought crosses your mind, “My son’s going to be late for practice again because I couldn’t get these kids out the door!” What if, instead, you reframed it? “You know what? As goofy and chaotic as life can be, we get to have this time together in the car. That’s a simple joy I want to appreciate.”
That kind of mindful awareness takes time and effort, but it leads to more positive emotions and helps build mental health and emotional well-being. Practicing this regularly helps us feel more grateful in our daily life.
Overt Gratitude: Saying What You’re Thankful For
If subtle gratitude is “see it,” then overt gratitude is “say it.” Expressing appreciation out loud builds stronger relationships and boosts happiness.
You can try:
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Keeping a gratitude journal or gratitude diary
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Starting a gratitude jar where you jot down small wins or positive events
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Writing weekly gratitude letters to friends, coworkers, or family members
Growing up, my family prayed together each night before bed. We each shared one thing we were thankful for and one prayer request. It quickly became the highlight of our evenings. Even when I didn’t have something in mind, that quiet moment helped me reflect and reframe. That simple practice helped me feel more grateful, even as a kid.
That habit became a lifelong rhythm that improved my life satisfaction, helped me feel closer to God, and taught me to recognize the positive impact of everyday moments.
Practical Ways to Incorporate Gratitude Into Your Life
Here are some actionable ways to start incorporating gratitude into your life today:
1. Try Cognitive Reframing
Pair up with a friend or your spouse to serve as gratitude accountability partners. Spend a few moments daily discussing what you’re working on, reframing, and how. This simple practice encourages a positive mindset and can help reduce the effects of negative things on your overall mood.
2. Explore New Gratitude Practices
You might:
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Start a gratitude journal
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Take a gratitude walk and reflect on the natural world
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Say what you’re thankful for out loud before bed
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Send a quick text or writing letters to say thanks
Gratitude Helps Us Live Fully
Gratitude isn’t just a feeling we chase. It’s something we can build, brick by brick, into the foundation of our daily life. When we learn how to practice gratitude, it can foster resilience, boost happiness, and even help us find joy in hard seasons.
So if you want stronger relationships, more compassion, and to feel grateful more often, start with just a few small shifts. Look for the simple joys. Count your blessings. Say thank you. Practice gratitude, and you may discover the profound impact it has on your heart, your health, and your relationships.
Want to feel more connected, content, and joyful this season? It starts with practicing gratitude—right where you are.