Do you ever run out of good questions to ask on a date? I’ve been married 32 years—you know, just getting started—so my husband and I have been on a lot of dates! We usually have a lot to share with each other from our day, but occasionally we like to be inspired by some fresh questions to help us explore different heart topics.
Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, date night conversations can always use a boost. At any age, talking together and listening to each other is really helpful for growing closer and strengthening your emotional and relational connection.
For Christian couples, learning more about each other’s spiritual life can bring an even deeper connection. And asking intentional, open-ended questions widens the doorway to enriching your relationship. Keep reading for 101 fun, practical, faith-centered Christian date night questions to help you get quality time together.
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- Fun and Lighthearted Conversation Starters
- Questions for Newly Dating Couples
- Questions for Intentional Dating
- Questions for Engaged Couples
- Questions for Newlywed Date Nights
- Questions for Married Couple Date Nights
- Questions for Seasoned Married Couple Date Nights
- Faith-Focused Conversation Prompts for Couples
- A Date Night Question for All Seasons of a Relationship
- Conversation Tips for Couples
15 Fun and Lighthearted Conversation Starters
Before diving into more serious questions, it can be helpful to break the ice by laughing or dreaming together through a lighter topic. Try one of these:
- If we could teleport anywhere for dinner tonight, where would you want to go?
- What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever prayed for?
- If we started a podcast together, what would we call it?
- What’s a small thing that instantly brightens your mood?
- If you could master an instrument effortlessly, which one would you pick and why?
- What would you name a pet llama, goat, and koala?
- If we could time-travel into one Bible story together, which one would top your list?
- What’s your idea of the perfect rest day?
- If you opened a food truck, what would it be called, and what would you serve?
- What has been your silliest or most awkward church moment?
- If you had to be stuck in a time loop, when and where would you want it to be?
- What’s your dream lazy-day movie marathon lineup?
- If we could take a mission trip anywhere in the world, where would you want to go?
- What’s a quirky challenge we could do together just for fun (like drawing maps of our town or country from memory or creating a new ice cream flavor)?
- If we had a superpower as a couple, what would it be?
11 Questions for Newly Dating Couples
Just getting started in your dating relationship? Here are some questions to ask to get to know each other better.
- What’s your go-to comfort meal when you’ve had a long day?
- Do you have a favorite family tradition or holiday memory?
- What’s a simple way someone has shown you kindness that has stuck with you?
- If we had a couples’ game night, what game would you want to start with?
- What’s a random talent or skill you wish you had?
- If you could only eat one dessert for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- What’s something that always makes you smile, no matter what?
- Is there something you do now that your younger self would be surprised by?
- What movie or show could you rewatch a dozen times and still enjoy?
- If we had to plan a spontaneous road trip right now, where would you want to go?
- How can we support each other in living out our faith in the world?
11 Questions for Intentional Dating
Are you starting to get serious in your dating relationship? Asking some of these questions can help you go a bit deeper.
- When do you feel most at peace?
- How do you usually handle conflict, and how do you like to resolve it?
- When do you feel most aware of God’s presence in everyday life?
- What’s your favorite way to be cheered up when you’re feeling off-kilter?
- How do you usually recharge—quiet time alone or quality time with others?
- Is there a way you feel God is specifically calling you to serve Him in your everyday life?
- What’s something you’ve done that felt brave at the time?
- Which fruit of the Spirit do you think we show each other most often? Which one do you think we could work on developing more together as a couple?
- What does a healthy, Christ-centered marriage look like to you?
- What kind of spiritual rhythms or habits would you want in a future marriage?
- How would you like to grow before marriage?
15 Questions for Engaged Couples
As you get ready for marriage, be sure to continue asking plenty of questions, keeping your eyes and ears open to really get to know your fiancé(e) thoroughly. Planning a wedding can be stressful—and waiting can be challenging—but you can grow closer together through this special season. Pick some of these questions to get your date night conversation going.
- What’s something ordinary that feels extra special because we’re together?
- How can we invite God more intentionally into our relationship?
- What’s something from your family background that you’d like to carry forward—or do differently?
- How do you picture our spiritual life together—prayer, church, serving, growing?
- What are your top priorities when it comes to family life?
- How do you feel about combining finances—what sounds wise, and what sounds tricky?
- What do you think makes a house feel like a home? What are the key elements of a comfortable home environment?
- How do you see us handling big decisions, like where to live or job changes?
- What does serving each other look like in daily life, and how will that change when we’re married?
- How have you seen God’s faithfulness in our story so far?
- What kind of legacy do you want our future family to leave behind?
- Who are some godly, long-lasting couples we admire, and what qualities have they modeled well?
- What are your thoughts on parenting and discipline?
- What’s your vision for how we’ll support each other’s callings or careers?
- What do you think are the biggest strengths we bring to our relationship?
11 Questions for Newlywed Date Nights
You did it! Congratulations on getting married. Now it’s time to keep dating each other and pursuing each other’s hearts—for the rest of your lives. How can you grow as best friends? Try some of these questions to keep up your passionate study of each other.
- What kind of silly inside joke would you put on a T-shirt just for us?
- If we opened a cozy café or bookstore together, what would it be called?
- What’s something you’ve learned about me in marriage that you didn’t expect?
- Is there a simple tradition you’d love for us to start?
- What does loving you well look like this week?
- Is there something that’s felt surprisingly easy since we got married? And what has stretched us already?
- What small, everyday habit do you hope we keep forever?
- As a couple, what do you think our spiritual gifts are?
- What’s one prayer you’ve been praying lately that I can join you in?
- Fifty years from now, what do you hope we’ll say about this first year of marriage?
- What does spiritual intimacy mean to you, and how can we grow in it together?
11 Questions for Married Couple Date Nights
Maybe you go out for a meal, or you just sit on the porch together. Or you talk on a long drive. Maybe you just carve out a few quiet moments when the kids are asleep.
Being alone together, it can be sweet just to be still for a while—and when you’re ready, to listen to each other’s hearts and find out what’s on each other’s mind. These questions can help get you started.
- What’s your dream vacation spot for the two of us?
- If you had to describe our relationship using only emojis, which ones would you use?
- What’s one of your favorite memories of us so far?
- How can I better support or encourage you right now?
- What’s one thing you’ve appreciated about being “us” lately?
- Was there a moment from this past week that made you feel really close to me? Or how can I work on that in the coming week?
- What’s a practical way we could protect our connection in busy seasons?
- How have we grown as a couple in ways you’re proud of?
- What rhythms or habits in our life together feel especially life-giving right now, or where do we need to add something life-giving?
- Is there some kind of adventure you’d want us to do together if time and money were no issue—like a road trip, cooking class, or sailing lesson?
- What does walking closely with God look like for you in this season?
15 Questions for Seasoned Married Couple Date Nights
You’ve been married for a while. Are you still listening to learn something new about each other? You and your spouse are always changing and growing, so keep pursuing each other and paying attention to current thoughts, feelings, and needs. Each season is different. Look through the list below to find a question that you find helpful to continue growing your marriage today.
- What does loving you well look like in this season of life?
- How can we keep investing in fun, even in the ordinary? Is there a new sport or hobby we could take up together?
- What’s something we’ve navigated together that has made our relationship stronger?
- Is there anything we used to enjoy that we might want to revisit together?
- What do you think our marriage reflects to others who are watching?
- If we could relive one day from earlier in our marriage, which one would you choose—and why?
- What are some ways we can pray together more intentionally?
- How can we keep learning and growing—side by side—through the years ahead?
- What’s one of your favorite quiet moments we’ve shared recently?
- If we were just getting married today, what advice would we give ourselves?
- What do you appreciate about how we’ve handled hard seasons together?
- How can we keep supporting each other’s spiritual growth?
- What’s a time God answered a prayer in our life that still encourages you?
- What are some dreams or adventures we still want to pursue—big or small?
- What’s one way we can bless someone else with what we’ve learned in our marriage so far?
11 Faith-Focused Conversation Prompts for Couples
Whatever relationship stage you’re in, you can raise your spiritual connection to new levels by investing in conversations that revolve around God’s presence in your lives. Explore how spiritual practices, biblical principles, and God’s help can bring new blessings to your dating relationship or marriage. Find a question to dive deeper.
- If we wrote a thank-you letter to God about our life together, what would you include?
- What does serving others together look like in this season?
- How can I encourage you in your spiritual life right now?
- What’s a Scripture verse or passage that’s been meaningful to you lately?
- How have you seen God at work in our relationship?
- What’s one area of faith where you’d like to grow this year?
- How do we each experience worship best—and how can we share that together?
- What are some ways we can stay rooted in Scripture as a couple?
- How can we guard our relationship against distractions that pull us away from Christ?
- What do you think is one of our couple strengths God could use to bless others?
- If we wrote a short devotional based on our relationship so far, what would the title be?
A Date Night Question for All Seasons of a Relationship
Here’s a question that is always interesting, can create or renew openness, and demonstrates investment and care. It shows a desire for self-awareness by addressing the base state of the relationship itself:
From your perspective, how is our relationship going?
Conversation Tips for Couples
To make the most of these date night questions, think about how you can plan regular time together to be curious about each other, share your hearts, and listen for what you don’t yet know. Be a safe space for each other to give honest answers; cultivating a deeper emotional connection is great glue for your relationship. Spontaneous laughter doesn’t hurt either.
If you can’t actually go out on a date on a regular basis, you can still ask some of these questions while you talk on the phone or trade emails, messages, or even letters. You could go for a short walk, converse in the car while on errands, or make chores fun by engaging in conversation while you’re working with your hands.
Ask questions with an open heart for what’s really behind the answers. Listen actively, provide eye contact in a comfortable way, and ask follow-up questions as it feels natural. Pray for growth and blessing on each other and your relationship.
It can be challenging to find a way to keep your connection fresh and growing while navigating jobs, responsibilities, children, activities, home and yard maintenance, health issues, and sleep. But it’s worth it to prioritize each other and your relationship as an investment in the long term. Continuing to study each other can be part of your regular rhythm for life and make a huge difference.
Challenge: To prioritize meaningful connection in your relationship, pick three of these questions for your next date night and see where the conversation goes!
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