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You Complete Me May Not Be The Best Phrase

by Alan George

Have you ever said you complete me? So before I got married to my wife Meryl, I remember trying to be really romantic. One day, I told her how amazing she was and added some extra mushy stuff. I will spare you all the details, but I ended with what I thought was a killer line. Turns out it’s something you should never say to your soul mate. I told her, “I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you because you (insert slight pause here) you complete me!”

What happened next didn’t exactly go as I had planned. As soon as she heard that, she said I needed to get my priorities right because there was no way that she could complete me—or that I could complete her. You complete me was that last thing she was thinking about me.

Uh … yeah. True story. While that was embarrassing, and funny, and a million other things, it was also very true. I thought that my life would be complete if I found the right person to spend the rest of my life with, or I’d be complete if had the right things in my life, but that was so far from the truth.

Maybe you thought if you only had the right job, or a pay raise, or the right childhood, the perfect soul mate, or were born in a different country, everything would be perfect. But that’s not true. All of that is temporary. God is the only one who never changes. He is the same yesterday, today and forever.


I love how we read in 1 Corinthians 10:12 MSG, Forget about self-confidence; it’s useless. Cultivate God-confidence. No matter how much we try, we will not find within ourselves, somebody else, our soul mate, or any material thing we can buy, the feeling of being complete. It’s impossible. So let’s stop trying to make it happen and actually do something that works—cultivate God-confidence in ourselves and allow Him to complete us. So maybe we should be saying you complete me, not to our significant others, but to our God.