“Why doesn’t God heal my ears, Mommy? Why don’t my ears work like everyone else’s?”
These are the questions my 12-year-old son, Blake, recently asked me. How do we answer our kids when they ask such difficult questions? We’re smack in the middle of the Advent season—a season when we remember how the world was waiting on God for the Messiah to be born. Sometimes, learning to wait on the Lord is more painful than we were expecting.
Blake’s Illness, and the Beginning of His Waiting on God
When my son was a baby, he became very ill with Respiratory Syncytial Virus (RSV). He was given a large amount of an antibiotic at once to help him. He had an allergic reaction to the medicine and his little body was covered in hives—inside and out. We later learned it burned the nerves in his ears and he lost 75% of his hearing. He was also left with some other health challenges.
Through reading God’s Word, seeking counsel from men and women who love Jesus, and the work of the Holy Spirit, I was convinced that the same God who had brought me and sustained me through my own healing experiences was preserving me in the waiting time with my son’s challenges. He was not only using my past but my present circumstances to prepare me for whatever will come next.
Learning to Wait Well
Back to our difficult conversation. Blake says, “I look forward to seeing Heaven, Mommy!” Blake tells me that he can’t wait to get to Heaven because he knows that he’ll have perfect hearing, and we’ll both have new bodies. We both have tears in our eyes but smiles on our faces.
12-year-old Blake Williams
Blake reminds me, “We will always have faith, always pray, and always wait well even when God doesn’t heal us on this earth.” I never would’ve had the courage or understanding to discuss something so deep at his age. This is something wonderful I’m learning about waiting on God. The beauty of Christmas is that God is Immanuel—God with us! Even though we’re waiting for our healed bodies either in this life or the next, we don’t wait alone.
We know that our body—the tent we live in here on earth—will be destroyed. But when that happens, God will have a house for us. It will not be a house made by human hands; instead, it will be a home in heaven that will last forever. 2 Corinthians 5:1 NCV
What is Advent, or waiting on God, teaching me?
- I’m learning that a smile is better than an A on a test.
- I’m learning that watching your child overcome obstacles you thought were impossible will fill you with more joy than you ever expected.
- I’ve become truly grateful for countless “little” things because Blake helps me appreciate them in ways I never thought possible.
- I’m learning how special and loved my son is not only by our family, but by the many people he’s gotten to know in his life.
- I’ve learned the heartache of seeing him bullied, but I’m learning the joy of seeing resilience grow in my son.
- I’m learning that waiting on God is a lifelong process, but it’s a joyful one because I know God is with us.
Christmas is a season of waiting. We remember the time when the world was in waiting for our Savior. Are you waiting on God? We remind ourselves to keep our hope alive and strong as we continue to wait in Advent for His return or for when we can join Him in heaven. We find rest in God when we wait on Him. He is our source of hope. He has come to us! And He is with us.